Divine Touch: THE 90/10 PRINCIPLE

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example.

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.

You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. 

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. 

After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is “D".

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "its OK honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". 

Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down

in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why? Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.

Great Marriage Story

My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

“Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can’t even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me:” What can I do to change your mind?”

Somebody said it right, it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : “Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?” He said :” I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes…. My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further..” This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

“When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way. You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand… and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face… Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die.. ”

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting… and as I continue on reading… “Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk… I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread….

Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…

That’s life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.. . flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… and that’s our life… Love, not words win arguments…

(Author Unknown)

What goes around comes around

I have read this story somewhere and would like to share with all of you.

One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her.

Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? He didn’t look safe; he looked poor and hungry. He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was those chills which only fear can put in you. He said, “I’m here to help you, ma’am. Why don’t you wait in the car where it’s warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson.”

Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt.

As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn't thank him enough for coming to her aid.

Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped. Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way.

He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Bryan added, “And think of me.”

He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.

A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn’t erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Bryan.

After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin.

There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: “You don’t owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I’m helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do, do not let this chain of love end with you.” Under the napkin were four more $100 bills.

Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard… She knew how worried her husband was, and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, “Everything’s going to be all right. I love you, Bryan Anderson.”

There is an old saying “What goes around comes around.”

Sushant Tripathi

Divine Touch,
Exploring the divine within...

Do you have a soul?

During my meditation sessions I often ask a question to the seekers - Do you have a soul? Answer received every time is a unanimous and instant reply -  Yes.  Then my next question comes: Do you have a soul or you are a soul having a body?

We all are divine souls who have come on this planet earth for spiritual growth and enlightenment. We are not human beings with spiritual experiences. We are spiritual beings with human experiences.
But we are so busy in our basic bodily needs like food, water, shelter, name , fame, money etc. that we have ignored our soul purpose completely.

Who are you? What is the purpose of your life? What do you do for a living? And what do you live for?

There are two types of people in this world. First, who are live and second who are alive. The difference between live and alive is of syllable "a". This "a" stands for awakening and awareness. Second category is awakened and aware of their existence. They know what is their purpose of life. They are aware that they are a soul and they are very well connected to the divine soul.

Our five senses through which we see, hear, smell, taste and feel are always there help us in experiencing the outer world. But, they are not meant to look within. Human body is a very complex machine beautifully designed by the God. But, through these five senses we cannot see inside our body, hear our heartbeat, taste the food in our abdomen, smell any odor inside our body or feel our skin from inside.

To explore the outer world we may need these five senses but to look within we need to stop all the five. Best tool for this exercise is Meditation. Meditation helps us in detaching our consciousness from these five distractions and to concentrate and connect with our soul. Once you reach the meditative state it appears to be a real world within and a dream or illusion outside. I often wonder what is real-  what we consider a dream or what we consider a reality?

Sushant Tripathi

Divine Touch,
Exploring the divine within...

About Us

How it started:

I have enjoyed a very successful career in India's no.1 private sector bank, making handsome amount, living a lavishing life. But, having all the luxuries and comfort still something was missing in life.

But, when I looked around, I saw that others are very happy in their life. So, I thought that everyone else is happy and this problem is only with me.

To seek help, I started discussing my problem with other “happy” people around me. All I wanted was their advise so that I can also be happy like them. But, what I found was very surprising. Every other person whom I considered to be very happy, successful and content in life, had the same problem.

Curiously, I interacted with people from different backgrounds: students, hawkers, vendors, corporates, doctors, lawyers, businessmen, shopkeepers, priests etc. One thing was common, they were making enough money to survive a good lifestyle but from inside they were also feeling that something is missing. They feel disconnected from their soul. They feel that in the life's mundane activities they are ignoring their inner voice.

So one day, unhappy and more confused, I was sitting quietly in a park meditating on my problem. I felt a feeble voice. I opened my eyes and looked around, but I was alone. It was my inner voice.

That day I realized that we all are so busy in this rat race that we have no time to sit and listen to our inner voice. This is the reason why in this era of communication and technology we are disconnected from our divine soul.

I started regular meditation and spending more time talking to my inner self. Answers of all my questions were lying within me only. This was the time when I realized that only we have answers of our questions.  Others can only guide us.

So, I started Divine Touch with the purpose of helping others to connect their divine self.

At Divine Touch , we provide counseling through intuitive guidance and also provide healing through purely natural powers such as meditation, reiki, crystal therapy, aromatherapy, color therapy and sound therapy. The purpose is to remove energy blockages at chakra level. Once, our chakras are balanced, we will have a happy body possessing a completely active mind which seeks guidance with the divine soul within.

We help you in identifying, what you consider as a problem is actually a puzzle.

Do you have problems in life? Or you think life is a problem? Let's understand the difference between the two.
A problem is a question without solution. But, we know that there are solutions for all the problems in life. So, what does a problem with a solution is called. It is called a Puzzle.

Now you understand the difference. Hence, going forward, you may say that life is a puzzle but never say that you have problems in life.

Have a problem free life. Cheers!

Sushant Tripathi,

Divine Touch
Exploring the divine within...